#metoo

"This is why women should not fall in love "
"It is always better for girls to listen to their parents to prevent themselves from getting abused "
"When elders told women should not go out after evenings,it has a meaning "

And much more cliché s at the end of every #metoo discussion. Moral policing is not the solution because #metoo is not about questioning the specific preparator.
It is not about feminism alone as well. To understand about the whole #metoo movement , we should start understanding the society from a macro view ,
1. What does #me too expect from the society?
First of all it is a movement by the people ,it is not a government policy or law. Questions like why the victim didn't open up then itself is absurd because the issue is above law. Reporting a perpetrator and getting him punished is possible,but how many people will be punished ? Every person who takes advantage of being a guy and chooses to abuse a girl is punished is just practically impossible !
So, the very first understanding is #metoo expects the affected to open up (men or women). It doesn't matter how long it has been since the incident (s). It gives the confidence and voice for the victims to openly talk about what has happened to them(us). It makes the abusers to be AWARE of the fact that, it is the time now that anyone ,anywhere can point them out and question their actions.

2. Is Moral policing the solution?
Definitely not.
Respecting a girl or a child's dignity is the first and foremost trait everyone should develop. If a society doesn't give it to women (and the children) , it is ok for the women (and the children to grow up) and demand for it.
Even if a girl is lying naked next to a guy, she still has the full rights to give or to withdraw her consent . Only the girl herself can give the consent and not her dress or the amount of alcohol in her blood or anything else . The people who do moral policing fail to accept this fact but goes on to blame the victim and her actions . Justifying that a girl is vulnerable for her way of life and that's why she gets abused is the most lame statement anyone can make.Moral policing is the easiest solution for me too or any sexual abuse problem. But we should remember the fact that, even if women totally cover herself inch by inch-
the body which is inside all these layers of cloths is still HERs and nobody else can take this ownership.

3. Equality and respect begins at home.

A 2 year old child giving newspaper to his dad and milk bottle to his mom from the doorstep is a very common scene in most of the households. But who teaches the child that women does the household chores? Traits doesn't develop only by education. It develops by what a child sees at his home. He grows up in time and accepts the fact that women are supposed to cook,stay at home,produce children and sacrifice her desires for the family . Unless the respect for women is embedded into our family system,our men will never understand how the rights of women work,how women can choose what she wants and not just accepts what she gets. The parents should take every effort to make sure that the children grow up in an environment where rights and equality are considered in day to day actions.If not, daughters will continue to get abused by some other guy from some other family which has failed to give the idea of respecting others opinions (child or women).

The issue doesn't stop here. Skewed up men and women ratio,increased and easier accessibility to porn from online media, caste and religion (social inequality) ,abuse of power and much more intricate cobwebs complicate the issue and make this look like unsolvable.

We should get reminded that #metoo is a movement. It can take any course in future,any unexpected outcomes can occur. The most important of all is, it has given the victims to speak out. And speaking is not a crime!!